and the happiness and joy we feel when we
truly and honestly show the courage to express our spirits, each
as unique as a snow flake or a finger print.
Hi, I'm Dr. McMahon. Thanks for being here with me this moment.
Do you want to be free? Free to see the world through
your own eyes; to think your own thoughts, to know the emotions
you have, to do that which you believe is the right thing for you
to do. To create what only you can create, to love in the unique
way you can love, to show forgiveness and compassion that comes
from your inner Wisdom, not some one else's directions? Of course.
But most of us are not so free. We are caught up
in psychological Fusion, an attachment to mother and father and
brother and sister, church or philosophy or cultural attitudes
of our childhood which we unquestioningly hold on to because it
makes us feel safe. We often sacrifice our unique selves
The opposite of psychological fusion is psychological
Separation. I've spent my life studying and teaching how to disentangle
our selves from those past influences and become truly free; the courage
to become a person. The price for this is the pain and fear that sometimes
comes from looking at these issues straight in the eye. The reward is
Wisdom, seeing life and the world through your own eyes, and the joy
and happiness that often accompanies that accomplishment. I describe
my struggle and those of the many people who have worked with me over
the years in my book,
The Price of Wisdom: the heroic
struggle to become a person
I am a psychologist, psychotherapist and teacher. I have also written
four books. Two professors, neither of whom I know, sent me an e-mail
of their conversations about my book, The Price of Wisdom: the heroic
struggle to become a person
bit more on McMahon. I guess I really am a bit embarrassed by how
deeply that book affected me - more so than any other book I've
read recently since it so directly addressed my own struggle to
'separate.' I would like this guy to be my therapist! Do you think
we could talk him into being our on-line spiritual advisor! I really
can't count the number of times I've used his insights just to get
me through the day. ....And you're right, if he had been published
and promoted in the same way Thomas Moore has been, I wouldn't feel
the embarrassment. He seems a more honest man, a deeper thinker,
and more caring person. "
In these few pages I want to tell you something of
this book which is now out of print, and suggest that it may just change
your life as it has for the many people who have written me about it.
love your book, I'm reading it like a bible...Everyday is so invigorating..I
can't tell you how well it is written and how meaningful it is
read the book by the river every day..it is getting me through
the death of my father."
New York, NY
having goose bumps from your words.; oh my God I feel so alive!
I feel free, recognizing that little tape in there is not about
me or God and I don't have to honor it. Thank you with all my
heart for your beautiful words."
Dorice S., Ridgewood,
People contact me for copies
and I don't have any to give them. The Price of Wisdom also seems
to be something of a collectible. On-line book sellers charge
extremely high prices for used copies. I offer it to you to down
load as an E-Book - to enjoy on your computer, or you can print
the entire book or any part of it that suits you. I offer it to
you for a modest fee to download.
I wrote The Price of Wisdom because I had to.
It was burning in my heart for over
thirty years as I struggled in my personal life and sat side by
side with hundreds of others who also struggled. It became amazingly
clear that each of us has a spirit, a unique force within us that
can lead us to joy and accomplishment that is unique to us. At
the same time it became clear that from the beginning of our life,
forces and influences affect
us which interfered with the full expression of our spirits and
stifled our freedom.
The root of this is the terror at life that we all
suffer because we are the only living things that have conscious awareness
of the spot we are in: we don't know where we come from, we don't know
where we are going, and we don't know what's there, there. Most of the
time this anguish is on the back burners of our lives, but it is always
there. Our first tendency is to fuse with our caretakers, trading our
uniqueness for the delusional belief that identification with our original
caretakers and those imagined ones we create in our minds would keep
us safe. We learned to trade freedom and joy for supposed safety and
approval of others.
In The Price of Wisdom, you learn how to wrest your
spirit back from the fusion that you are in and become your own person,
to see the world with your own eyes. But it's not just theory we deal
with in this book, it is the practical awareness of just how this fusion
The Price of Wisdom is the only book to my knowledge
that demonstrates exactly where this fusion has taken place inside us
and how to separate from it. Fusion has contaminated our thoughts and
even how we think or if we are allowed to think at all. Fusion has affected
our emotions, what we feel and even if we have the right to feel. Fusion
has interfered with our behavior, what we do or don't do and even if
we are allowed to do anything at all! The Price of Wisdom shows you
just how this operates.
read this book three times cover-to-cover! Powerful! I've been
meaning to write to James McMahon to tell him how powerfully affected
I have been by this easy-to-read, but profound book. If you are
wondering what a truly individuated, psychologically-separated
and free individual looks like - read this book! It's a road map
that takes you all the way there. Must reading for people on the
journey to wholeness!"
sent to Amazon.com)
Judith Machree, Brussels,
In the Price of Wisdom there are two chapters having
to do with change. I have suggested a three tiered, unique approach
to where we are stuck that has been helpful to me and those with whom
I work. First we identify clearly and unambiguously what is it is that
we deem in need of change. We take our time about this because much
of what we think must be changed is someone else's idea, not ours. But
after careful attention, and in a loving and self-respectful manner
we think we would express our spirits better if such and such changed,
we do the following:
Form a clear and honest Intention to change, being
specific about what our thinking, feeling and behavior would look like,
if our intention came to pass.
Then we observe. We carefully and patiently and lovingly
watch the discrepancies between what we intended and what we actually
do. We are careful to be honest about this. Then, and this is the most
important, we practice what I term Radical Self Acceptance. We know
what our intention is, we honestly note whether we carry them out or
not. And then we love and accept ourselves with that reality under our
nose. And we apply the whole process even when, no matter what we do,
we cannot love and accept ourselves at that moment. Seemingly miraculously,
when we have despaired of ever changing, if we are determined to do
the above, change occurs, seemingly behind our backs!
I have made it simple here in order to be clear. Read
The Price of Wisdom and you will get the emotional support and hard-nose
techniques that will make this possible.
a contribution! Every page speaks to me. Your book is a treasure."
Sr Pascal C., Bronx,
feel like you're talking to me.. It is so compassionate and loving...I'm
passing it back between me and my friends..It's the best book
that I've read....I feel like you wrote this book for me."
Joyce S, New
I did write this book for Joyce, and I wrote it for
you, too. I wrote it for me, too. I wrote it for all of us, for children
of all ages who thirst for the right and possibility to disentangle
themselves from the past and live the rest of their lives free with
clear vision - their own, and capable of loving all they choose to love,
fully and joyfully: Wisdom. I hope you join us in struggling with that
which limits us, in our one and only life. There are no enemies here.
There are no good guys and bad guys. Our parents and those who may have
contributed to our distress are suffering too.
read the phrase, 'we must hold hands between generations', and
I broke down and cried. I remembered my mother's death, felt compassion
for her and forgave her. I feel transformed. I feel like a new
person. I'm at peace for the first time in my life."
Herman F. (age 70),
rare, outstanding, fantastic book. It can change your life. Go
out and get it."
Host Craig R. WCCM, Boston,